A mother plays a unique role in the family.  For many families she is the center of the wheel, the connector who ensures that everyone stays in touch and everything keeps moving smoothly.

I think that in many cases, the little things that mother’s do are not really noticed.  The small things that make every day a little bit easier for everyone in the family.

This is absolutely true for grandmothers too who often play a very active role in a family and contribute to that warm heart that is the centre of any family.

Mother’s Day is a day to stop and simply acknowledge the role that a mother and grandmother play in our daily lives and a day to be grateful for all that they do.

Let’s be grateful on Mother’s Day

I practice daily gratitude – I always remind myself of three things I am grateful for every night before I go to sleep.  This is said to change the neuroscience in your brain and put you in a place of positive vibrations, bringing all sorts of good things your way.  Why not apply this to our families?

This Mother’s day let’s challenge ourselves to do some really practical and affordable things to make this day really special.

  1. Take time to write down three reasons you are grateful to your own mum and if you feel like it add it to her card on the day.  A quick Facebook message or even a phone call will work too. I promise you one of the best gifts you can give anyone is to thank them for what they have done.
  2. Now do the same for yourself.  As a mum we don’t often acknowledge all we do ourselves.  This year give yourself the gift of a huge pat on the back to remind yourself of how much of a role you play.  Feel free to add yourself to the present list and buy yourself flowers too.
  3. Cook a meal rather than go out.  I am going to be visiting my son for Mother’s Day.  He has recently started working in his first adult job.  I’d like to take you out to lunch’, he said.

I thanked him but suggested that he and his cousins might cook for myself and my sister-in-law.  Eating out on this special day can be expensive, but also a bit hectic. A home cooked meal be it breakfast, lunch or supper is what I would like.

  1. If you are buying a gift make it meaningful.  Gifts don’t have to be expensive, but they do need to be thoughtful. How about a voucher for her favourite online website, a thoughtful gift to prompt the idea of a new hobby, a taster class for the new cooking or pottery class starting up?  What about a magazine subscription to keep her up to date with her favourite celebs?
  2. The gift of time.  It is not always possible to spend time with your mum, or your gran.  It is not always possible to spend time with your kids. I am so grateful that I have my ticket bought and will be with my son this year, but I know has he tests his wings and starts the flight to his future it won’t always be so.  If you can’t spend time together this Mother’s Day then make another plan. Set up a Skype chat, make a phone call, or even rearrange the day and celebrate as soon as you can.
  3. Don’t forget the card!  There is nothing nicer than the satisfying plop of a card on the doormat.  Take the time to select wisely and choose the words you include carefully.
  4. Not all Mum’s look the same.  For many people they may no longer have their Mum around, and might not be a Mum.  I think there is great joy in sending a card to that woman who has always been there for you, who has played the role although she may not have the biological connection.

My own Mum is miles away, and I haven’t spent a Mother’s Day with her for many years.  I do make this promise though. I will make sure the card is in the post and will reach her in time.  I will also make that call.

I would love to hear how you spend your Mother’s Day.  Let me know in the comments.

Jean xx

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